Ha! Got you. Who doesn’t want to know how to reverse the aging process? The catch is that aging is a physiological and biological reality. That does not mean that the creative, emotional or psychological aspects of aging are part of the biological imperative. So what constitutes aging regarding our attitudes and spirit? Simply put, it is shifting from infinite possibilities to living in fear. Over the course of a lifetime our world can get smaller, darker, and less loving. Our openness, willingness, flexibility and sense of adventure erode over time. It begins when we no longer enjoy the same willingness to learn, avoid new things, become the victim of habits and belief systems that no longer serve us, are limited by regrets and resentments and eventually, allow our feelings about our past to define our future — long before it ever arrives.
As children we live in a world filled with infinite potential. We believe anything can happen. We pick ourselves up quickly and brush ourselves off when we get hurt: our tears become laughter; failures — a fresh inspiration; heartbreak — the promise of new beginnings.
So what changed and what can we do about it? First we have to come out of denial regarding our mortality. This is accomplished when we accept that aging is not negotiable, learn to pay attention to what makes us feel old and become willing to alter our habits to enhance our sense of wellness. In other words, if wheat, alcohol, certain people or an unhealthy working environment feel detrimental or make you feel old, sore or hopeless you acknowledge it, adapt and then change in a way that enhances your sense of wellness.
By understanding the futility of negotiating with the realities of aging we become free to adopt the posture, attitudes and habits that enhance aliveness: mirroring those of our youth. We embrace new things and if or when we fail at them, we try again. We create adventures, real ones, where we haven’t planned for every conceivable circumstance and allow ourselves to be guided by our passions, instincts and intuition. We take up hobbies that gave us joy in our youth and explore the one’s we’ve managed to make excuses for not doing as adults.
A big challenge for each of us is to make the changes that aging requires us to make: committing to restoring our range of motion via yoga, dance and boogie boarding so we can move fluidly and freely through the world; exercising regularly to recover strength, stamina, agility, circulation and lung capacity, knowing that not doing it results in mental fog, depression, low tolerance to disease, a poor immune system and memory loss; re-educating ourselves to nutrition by learning to eat only when hungry, limiting those foods that takes us off our game, stop using food to deal with boredom, loneliness or uncomfortable feelings; recognizing the futility of trying to fix others and instead cultivate relationships that feed our spirit and/or offer us opportunities to share our gifts. In essence we must take an honest look at what we like, what we love, what no longer works, where we would like to make a contribution and how to make all of these… the center of our life.
Though the fact we age is not negotiable, how we age is and as such, it is our sole responsibility.

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